The significant other-spending roadblock

[gear junkie]

Seeing Jrsaltz purchases made me wonder what type of conversation he had with the wife before he bought this. What do you say to convince them that you really need another snake or why this drill is cost so much?

[hewood]

I usually end up spending very little money out of the family budget, which makes things much easier. I save up BD and Christmas money, sell other tools and hobby items, earn some money in the shop, and stash things like rebate checks that come in under the radar. Once in a great while I make a significant unauthorized purchase, then have to beg forgiveness. :trash-him: :have-fun:

[Aaron91]

*Makes whipping sounds.*


Man I'm glad I'm not married. :D

[Gene Bickford]

Since my wife works with me she understands the need for proper equipment.
She looks at the same way I do, this tool will make our job easier , this tool will get us more work later or, this tool will allow us to do our job better.

[Drain Medic]

She has very little say in what i do with the business. Anything that is purchased comes directly from business funds, not personal funds. How do you make a company run and grow without spending money? ;)

[DUNBAR]

*Makes whipping sounds.*


Man I'm glad I'm not married. :D



For clarity


Whhaaaaaaaaaaa-chhhhh!!!

[PLUMBER RICK]

before i got married, joey came to the trade show and saw me plop down 35k on a trench less pipe puller.

her reaction was, "i need to go to the job when you use this to see how it works"

so far she's been there for every job.

the day before our honeymoon i bought a trailer jetter just in time before the price increase.

at this point she knows my spending habits. and i know hers:grin:

she has her money and i have mine. i don't question hers and she doesn't question mine.

what's mine is hers and what's hers is hers:eek: i don't need no stinking purses or shoes:D but i do like the purple car;)

rick.

[gear junkie]

before i got married, joey came to the trade show and saw me plop down 35k on a trench less pipe puller.


No lie Rick, you were trying to impress her.

[ToUtahNow]

Brenda has been with me since the beginning and after 37-years of marriage knows I don't buy a tool unless it will increase my profits. Of course as far as toys go we have both learned to forgive the others weaknesses.

Mark

[Service Guy]

She has very little say in what i do with the business. Anything that is purchased comes directly from business funds, not personal funds. How do you make a company run and grow without spending money? ;)

This is how it works with me too. Business money is business money and I buy whatever tools I want with it. I don't use personal funds for tools. If she questions anything, I tell her how I need the tools to make money and its also a tax-write-off.

[DuckButter]

Ditto, newly married over the summer, she knows one thing without question....what I make is what I have left after expenses, tools are an expense, the receipts go to uncle sam's folder for when I file.

[canucksartech]

Coming up on 2 years married, 6 years together. She knows I'm the shopper in the relationship - I honestly had to teach her how to shop for deals at the grocery store even. Now, I've created a monster - at LEAST one new pair of shoes or purse on average every month. :confused:

So, mine's pretty lenient. I've always explained to the Mrs. Canuck that it's a deal, or it's on sale, or look how much I've saved honey, etc. Generally, I'm using personal money or birthday/Christmas money/giftcards, and I do what I can to get a bargain/deal/sale price, but she's understanding due to me buying tools to help complete, generally, what she wants me to get done around the house. :rolleyes:

Also, if I know that that will not work, my Dad taught me a valuable lesson in life before I got married - it's always easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. :nono: :cool:

[VASandy]

"Oh THAT tool?!?! I've had that for YEARS....surprised you haven't noticed it before!" :D

Please PLEASE do not tell him what lathe tools cost! He has been very supportive of my tool purchases, and generally I just need to let him know why I need a particular tool. His habits are guitars and musical equipment, so it's not like he doesn't understand why a good tool is a requirement. I just don't think he'll understand why a 1/2" roughing gouge costs $45. ;)

[plumberscrack]

Anita and I have a preset spending limit of $300 each. We able to spend this amount without prior approval from the other and no validation needed afterwards.

It used to be half that amount until she went over several times so I had to up the limit.

This is a per month amount. No carry over into the next month, if unused.

My $300 limit can be applied towards tool purchases only. Her limit can be clothes, shoes, purses, etc. I rarely get anywhere near my limit. She regularly breaks hers by the second Saturday of the month.

So far this system has worked out very well for both of us. No one wants to argue over money.

[canucksartech]

Anita and I have a preset spending limit of $300 each. We able to spend this amount without prior approval from the other and no validation needed afterwards.

It used to be half that amount until she went over several times so I had to up the limit.

This is a per month amount. No carry over into the next month, if unused.

My $300 limit can be applied towards tool purchases only. Her limit can be clothes, shoes, purses, etc. I rarely get anywhere near my limit. She regularly breaks hers by the second Saturday of the month.

So far this system has worked out very well for both of us. No one wants to argue over money.

Similar idea for me and Mrs. Canuck, but it's at $200 each for the month (hey, isn't that about $300 American now??! :cool:).

But, she still inspects my purchases. Especially if it's a month where I've got myself a nice shiny new Callaway golf club (Fusion is a wonderful thing, baby!).

[MrsSeatDown]

No lie Rick, you were trying to impress her.

I don't call it impressive. . . I have another adjective for it:angel2:

Rick-don't listen to these guys about a budget and spending limits. Close your eyes and go to the next thread:D

[canucksartech]

I don't call it impressive. . . I have another adjective for it:angel2:

Rick-don't listen to these guys about a budget and spending limits. Close your eyes and go to the next thread:D

Good call. Now...

Tell us the truth Joey, we promise not to tell Rick. You told him you "...need to go to the job when you use this to see how it works..." because you didn't necessarily want to see how the tool works, but just wanted to see him use the tool just to prove that he does actually do something, right? :D ;)

Oh, just kiddin', Rick. I know you're a worker. Besides, my money's on you at the challenge/Roundup! :cool:

[Pipestone Kid]

Well, I guess it is time for you young bucks to learn from us old f**ts. When I got married I handed the check book over to my wife and told her to pay the bills and whatever was left, she could spend as she wished. Of course, if I wanted anything, I charged it! :rolling-eyes:

[MrsSeatDown]

You told him you "...need to go to the job when you use this to see how it works..."

For real. . .that is how it went. I wanted to play with it. I have run the machine on every job.

Rick would always take pictures of me with my pink gloves, long hair, and long nails running the machine:D

What pissed me off is that the sales guy asked to borrow the pictures at a trade show and started selling machines by saying it was so easy to run even a girl could do it.:banghead:

Needless to say I had a few choice words for him:trash-him:

[HVAC HAWK]

if i need something for work or play i ask if we have the $ and if not i wait if we do i get it .i do not get things i dont need .i say is it a want or a need
she gets things for her self and i get things for my self but we never went over board .we both work and make good $ so we still can get a toy every so often

it it all team work coming up on 20yrs :grin-loving:

[tchads]

I did the same as Pipestone. Gave the checkbook to my wife 20+yrs ago and haven't seen it since. Put almost all of the paycheck in the bank each week. It does help that I married an accountant.:cool: