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    It is never easy to deal with the death of a loved one. Our lives revolve around, and we are the reflection of, the relationships we have forged with others and the ongoing dialog that ensues. That dialog can last minutes, years, or decades. Frequently there is mutual closure of the conversation and we move on with satisfaction. But then, there are those conversations that end abruptly leaving you longing for another sentence to add, even if it's just to say "goodbye, I love you, it's been fun."

    This week my honorable, industrious father had successful surgery to place a stint in a neck vein. That evening he laid back to take a nap and suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and went into a coma from which he never awoke.
    The next day, after receiving the report that Dad would not survive more than a few days, my sweet, frail, courageous mom suffered a broken heart and died two days later surrounded by family who desperately wanted the conversation to continue just a little while longer. Dad followed her into Paradise 3 days later as I held his hand and spoke but he could not hear. They had been married 68 years.

    Take from this what you will. We are all just one breath from eternity. It would sound trite to recommend you treat every goodbye as the final one. But I will tell you this, a conversation abruptly ended when your cell phone drops is annoying but will soon be continued. A dialog interrupted by death leaves you empty. My only comfort, and it is considerable, is that Christ conquered death and the relationship will continue in the future.

    I said "goodbye, I love you, it's been fun", to both of my parents yesterday. There was no reply this time.

    tim
    "Man will do many things to get himself loved, he will do all things to get himself envied." Mark Twain

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    My thoughts and prayers to you and your loved ones...I lost my dad when I was 16 to the same thing....I have been told and believe he was at peace and comfort...from this life to the next....till you meet him again...
    Poor Planning On Your Part Does Not Constitute An Emergency On My Part!!
    You can fire me...but you can't tell me what to do!

    Derek

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    • #3
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      tim, really sorry to hear about your family loss.

      68 years together is amazing.

      you have the ridgid family for support.

      rick.
      phoebe it is

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        I am so sorry for your loss but you pay tribute to your parents by being the son that you are. Both my parents are gone now and it is never easy. Having a belief in the hereafter, you know they have moved on to bigger and better things.

        Mark
        "Somewhere a Village is Missing Twelve Idiots!" - Casey Anthony

        I never lost a cent on the jobs I didn't get!

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        • #5
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          Tim that was a touching story and although painful all lives must someday come to an end. My parents were together 62 years and did their best to give my sister and myself good examples to live by. When my father passed away I had no regrets, no words of love and thanks unsaid, but that is rare. I think we as parents need to do our best to express love, patience and all the other good traits necessary to not only survive this earth but pass on having done as little damage as possible to our children. I think when we love folks there is never enough time, enough conversation. Try to find some peace in knowing they are at rest and together and even if they can't reply you can still keep them alive in your thoughts and prayers. I sometimes dream of my dad and usually he is standing beside me shaking his head in disapproval at something stupid I'm about to do. When I wake up I laugh and try my best not to screw up. May God Bless your parents and keep you strong. Frank

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            Originally posted by SlimTim View Post
            It is never easy to deal with the death of a loved one. Our lives revolve around, and we are the reflection of, the relationships we have forged with others and the ongoing dialog that ensues. That dialog can last minutes, years, or decades. Frequently there is mutual closure of the conversation and we move on with satisfaction. But then, there are those conversations that end abruptly leaving you longing for another sentence to add, even if it's just to say "goodbye, I love you, it's been fun."

            This week my honorable, industrious father had successful surgery to place a stint in a neck vein. That evening he laid back to take a nap and suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and went into a coma from which he never awoke.
            The next day, after receiving the report that Dad would not survive more than a few days, my sweet, frail, courageous mom suffered a broken heart and died two days later surrounded by family who desperately wanted the conversation to continue just a little while longer. Dad followed her into Paradise 3 days later as I held his hand and spoke but he could not hear. They had been married 68 years.

            Take from this what you will. We are all just one breath from eternity. It would sound trite to recommend you treat every goodbye as the final one. But I will tell you this, a conversation abruptly ended when your cell phone drops is annoying but will soon be continued. A dialog interrupted by death leaves you empty. My only comfort, and it is considerable, is that Christ conquered death and the relationship will continue in the future.

            I said "goodbye, I love you, it's been fun", to both of my parents yesterday. There was no reply this time.

            tim
            Very sorry. There will always be questions unanswered, conversations unfinished, and what ifs no matter how a loved one departs.

            Sounds as if you have been fortunate to have good parents and a good relationship with them. Mourn them, but I hope you can also celebrate the life, memories, and teachings from them.

            Again, sorry for your loss.

            J.C.

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              sorry to hear of your loss, loosening both so close to each other would be very hard, prayers for you family,
              Push sticks/blocks Save Fingers
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                Prayers for you and yours.Most of us understand the place you are at now.

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                • #9
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                  Tim,

                  I read your post with great sadness for you and your family. May God give you strength and guidance both now and into the future. Your memories are no doubt great as indicated by this very heartfelt post. I certainly appreciate your message. You certainly do honor your parents and I wish you and all of your family me sincerest sympathies.

                  God's blessings for you all,

                  CWS

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                  • #10
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                    Wow Tim I'm sorry for your loss of both parents so close.

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