I believe time can heal most wounds, but not all. When returning vets were called "baby killers", it must have been worse than getting punched in the gut. One guy told me you try not to get friendly with other guys because they would get killed, another said you were always afraid, or when you were short time to come home it was the worst time. Unless we lived through those kind of times, we really can't imagine what it was like. I hope Tailgunner explains that he meant those comments in a juvenille way when he didn't know any better. I think that's the case and that he's a good guy.
Frank - I stay away from the 100's. I'm not worthy. But I do hit the free weights and cable machines after I do my cardio. I really do not enjoy the cardio.
I don't socialize at the gym. I try to get in, get sweaty and sore, in under 90 minutes. Chit chat would slow me down. We do have a number of guys that use the 100's and I just kind of weave my way around them. They're cool for the most part, doing their thing. I can't imagine why a club would want to discourage these type of customers. Perhaps it's because these guys actually use the gym? I get my moneys worth out of my membership.
Hang in there bub. Have you considered doing some volunteer work to get you out of the house, take your mind off all the bad news you see every day?
I know how to operate rodding trucks, aerial bucket trucks, polecats with augers, underground cable pulling trucks and just about everything else, but with a bad neck, back and gut I'm useless! I did try to get some handyman jobs but they say they're looking for light carpentry, plumbing and electrical skills then you find out the job is moving furniture and filing cabinets all night.
Retirement at any age requires adjustments, we transition from being producutive and respected for that usefulness, to something very different. I take care of my home and property, help prepare meals and such, but it's much different than when I used to go to work. Very important to retain a sense of self worth because family and other folks can sometimes say some real hurtful things.
I retired at a relatively young age, but I observe other men who are retired and the patterns are similar. Wives who still go to work are not too happy to have their husbands at home, they expect them to become househusbands. When we were young and married our value to the marriage was different, we were going to father children, and build lives together. Things change when that is all behind you, and if you are not mentally prepared you could be in for trouble. Well, that's my retirement story, hope it didn't bore you too much.
I drove by a gym the other day
Quitting the Gym was the best thing to do. They are a private company they should be aloud to set policy the way they like. You are a free man you should not give them your money.