I have just a few more thoughts I wanted to get out then I'll shut up. Marriage is rarely what couples expect when they are caught up in passion. They don't project all the rocks in the road, changes in the relationship due to children, financial responsibilities, illnesses, age and so much more. When people talk about marriage their comments reflect where they are at a particular time. The newlyweds most likely are hopeful about the wonderful things ahead, they're all stary eyed and in love. The folks married fifteen years or so with children are in a whole other place, dealing with children while trying to remain friends and lovers. So it goes, constantly changing, sometimes real slow and sometimes suddenly. The stresses of financial problems and health, sometimes are too much for a marriage to survive. People who were once lovers become enemies and once that happens the bad words, bad thoughts and sometimes bad behavior ensue.
We can either ask folks what it's like to be married and raise a family, let their answer be our guide, or, we can try for ourselves and make up our own mind. Sure there are plenty of marriages that end in divorce, but when those folks are talking trash about their ex, I would point out that there was a time they were very much in love. Bottom line for me is to be my own person and live my own life, making my own mistakes along the way.
Try and be a decent man, be kind and caring, and take stock of your actions. If you're lucky, you can share your life with a good woman and put at least one more decent person on this earth. just like your parents did!
For the last twelve years, my time has been documented and accounted for. I have every order I was assigned, every receipt for education paid for, a diploma, and a license to back it all up, and a couple DD214's for good measure. So nowadays, I have been forced to ask myself, "This is the reward I get for my efforts? To be given more work to do?"
At this point, inspite of how late it is, I really have to get back to my courses, and complete one more chapter before turning in.
Heh, I been playing Felix Mendelssohn : The Hebrides "Die Hebriden" (Fingal's Cave) - Overture off of youtube among other pieces as I do my bookwork, and type this in between breaks.
John Wayne " If You're all alone and lonesome, You're in poor company "
I can build anything You want , if you draw a picture of it , on the back of a big enough check .
dont sweat the small stuff. drink a few talk plumbing or whatever is going on it will come to you.
Buy cheap, buy twice.
I'm you a decade or so further along. 42, no woman, no prospects except ex's who'd have me back but I'm done with. Bar scene 20 somethings? Doesn't even cross their minds; it's like I'm a different species. 50 something divorcees with kids in college looking to party are depressingly everywhere I turn. All the 30-40 yr olds are not divorced yet.
My plan? Not unlike the sewing class, but skewed a little...
I start yoga this week .
Have you tried Craigslist? J/k. But I wouldn't be afraid to try online websites. People use them because they're in your same situation where they want to meet someone but don't want to go to the bars. It's working for my Uncle who is in his late 40's. He's met a lot of women on match.com.
Or you could get a part time job at the local burger joint with all the hot young 18 year olds who haven't seen their dad in decades....
OR - get a job with the cable company as a contractor and do installs around the time the college kids come back to town. I guarantee you will meet someone . I'm sure they're hiring because cable contracting companies go through employees like mr ripoff rooter